Break the Chain of Anger and Move On

11The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression.

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We have a choice, act on anger or consciously let it go!

Do you find it difficult to break the chain of anger go and move on? We can’t always choose what happens to us. We always have a choice on how we react to a situation. Something happens and our immediate response is anger. We start spewing anger! The recipient throws hateful words back, which infuriates us. Back and forth the game goes on! We need to break the chain of anger and move on.

We have the choice; to act on our anger immediately or to consciously postpone it or even let it go for good. There may be many other reasons, beyond what is happening in that moment, causing anger to rear its ugly head.

By stopping the fury in its tracks and taking a breath, we are given time to cool off and objectively consider if the opposing argument hold merit. Or perhaps we are in a bad mood and mad at everything and need time to cool of.

Anger begins to take hold of us creating a chain reaction

How can we break the chain of anger and move on, letting it go? As the anger begins to take hold of us, we must consciously decide to put a stop to our emotions immediately. If we can’t take charge over them, they become a situation out of control.

Pray for peace over the situation. If you can’t pray, just call the word “help” out to God and he will hear you!

Ask for the Father to assist everyone involved to see, with a clear mind, what’s really happening.

Through God, call on Jesus and with his strength in us, the anger will dissipate. (I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me).

Request that God that through the Holy Spirit’s guiding, help us out of the situation, with love, kindness and forgiveness for everyone involved.

How should we respond to anger?

Our first response to anything should not be anger. Take time to consider the reason for the offence and be slow to anger. Perhaps counting to ten will give us enough time to take control of the situation.

Remember that anger is a temporary reaction and we must learn to control it. Anger should never be the first reaction to a situation.

Stop immediately and take some time to get our emotions under control. Revisit the problem after emotions are under control.

Stop immediately and take some time to get our emotions under control. Revisit the problem after emotions are under control.

If others are involved, sometimes they can’t or won’t let it go. It’s up to us to take charge. We must cool down by walking away.

It is important to forgive other people. I don’t know what the situation you’re involved in that made you angry. Most likely, you feel you could never forgive them. There are many reasons why you should forgive. The best reason is that you deserve peace and that can only come from forgiving.

With the help of God (the Father, Jesus the Son and the Holy Spirit) we can put a stop to whatever is happening in the moment. Choosing to defer the anger, gives us the opportunity to take a breath and relax. We will be able to peacefully and rationally talk about why the anger immerged. This is wonderful news!

We can not always choose what happens to us, but we can always choose how we react.

My Prayer for Proverbs 19:11

My Father in Heaven,

It is for your glory that I live. Thank you that I am created in your image and that you are willing to teach me how to be more like you.

Father, I know that on a regular basis, I am offended by someone or something. I tend to embrace the offence and bury it deep that it affects my soul. This allows my anger to keep brewing. And after awhile, my temper explodes, like a volcano.

I am aware that I can say or do something that effects other people’s emotions. I need to change and with your strength, I can. From now on, please help me to be on the lookout for situations that would cause me to fail. If any anger, bitterness or anything not of you begins to take hold of me, please allow me to immediately to be aware and turn to you, knowing in faith, that you will come to my rescue.

Please search my soul and draw out every hidden anger.

Cleanse me, in Jesus’s name. Thank you, Father. Allow me, with the strength and power of Christ, to rise above whatever brings me to the point of anger and rebellion. The more I stand in Jesus, the quicker these types of incidents will dissipate.

Overlooking an offense, breaks the chain of anger and brings glory (honour) to my name. Thank you, Lord for allowing me the opportunity to live my life in you.

It is my goal to please and honour you. All the glory to you God for all you are and all you do.

In Jesus’ name Amen

Ephesians 4:26

Release Your Anger Daily

26Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:

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Don’t let the sun go down on your anger. Release your anger daily!

Did you know that you should release your anger daily? Sometimes, we hold onto them intentionally or perhaps unintentionally. At times we cling to them far too long. By holding anger and sin, we are allowing the enemy to have a place within us. The longer we hold onto rage and iniquities, the more they grow and with that, we allow Satan and his host to work in us with free reign. Making it very important to release our anger daily!

The author is suggesting that our wrath must be dealt with by the end of the day. By releasing our anger and sin, the enemy can no longer have a foothold on us.

Don’t let anger fester!

My prayer for Ephesians 4:26

Heavenly Father – You are the Lord who can help me release my anger daily.

Thank you Lord for being such an amazing God. In you I can always find a way to deal with every situation I am faced with, including anger and sin.

Sometimes Lord, I want to hold onto them. I’ve been hurt in such a way that the anger is the only thing that keeps me going. Embracing the anger, leads to sin.

I know that holding onto them is exactly what the enemy wants. Satan is using anger to keep my mind occupied. And on top of that, he continues to increases the level of anger.

Please always help me to see that this is a huge plot of Satan’s. He jumps in immediately and builds on my feelings. I can feel my heart begin to race, my thoughts run rampant and my blood pressure rises.

The enemy is using my hurt and building on it. It’s his main job to keep me from finding a more peaceful way to work out the situation. He’s not taking the chance for me to have the opportunity to call out to you Lord.

The enemy knows that through you, I can have peace within me and without. When Satan keeps me away from you, he knows that my anger and sin will continue to grow and eventually I will be consumed with a vehement desire to keep the anger alive.

In these situations, I need your help Lord. Please come to my aid. Don’t allow my anger to grow and consume me.

The enemy has many ways to get a foothold on me. Believing that I have dealt with the anger and sin, the process of the anger forging deep inside my soul may have already started.

Help me Lord to find the true calm, the inner stillness, the peace that passes understanding. In you, I can find tranquility, love and forgiveness, in a situation where peace usually can’t be found. Help me to release my anger daily. Father, you are my peace. Thank you Lord.

In the name of Jesus Christ, I pray, Amen

For more information regarding sin: If We Say We Have No Sin – John 1: 8-10

Want to learn more about Salvation: What is Salvation


You Have The Right To Remain Silent – Use It!

11A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.

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Right to remain silent – use it.

Rambling on and on, is the Bible’s definition of a fool!

It sounds so easy to just remain silent when in a heated argument, however it is not an easy task to do. If a man is angry and immediately spews out that anger, he may say more than he means to say. However a wise man will hold the anger and let his mind and body relax before he discusses what has made him angry and why.

When an argument erupts chances are that both parties will attempt to speak at the same time. What happens is that while both are trying to get their point across, they are only listening to their own opinions because each person is thinking about what they are going to say next.

A fool vents their anger, but the wise remain silent

By trying to speak over or silencing someone, you are doing the opposite to what you are attempting to do. That is, if you are attempting to silence someone, you are just building more tension. Best thing is to remain silent when someone expects rage. When you pause and listen to the other person long enough for them to finish saying what they need to say, the underlying emotions can be released.

If something happens and our emotions have already taken over, the best thing to do is stop and relax. Having a cooling down time allows the anger to be calmed. Talk to God, before speaking to the other person. Ask for his peace to come over the situation. How to find peace? Check out this link Break the Chain of Anger and Move On

Speak less, listen more

There is another scenario that Proverbs 29:11 can fall under. Assuming that there are two or more people talking. If one man tells everything he knows on a subject, all at once, he is then out of the conservation. When he tries to get back into it, all he can do is to rehash what he has already presented. However, if he had began by sharing a little bit of information at a time, he would be adding to the conversation, as it progresses.

It’s important for us to learn to listen more and speak less and not run on at the mouth in any situation. We need to control our anger or it will take control over us. Here is a thought for us to keep in mind the next time we are tempted to ramble on; God gave us mouths that shut and ears that don’t! Remember that you have the right to remain silent – use it! If you don’t, anything you say will be misquoted and used against you!

I have the right to remain silent, but sometimes I don’t have the ability

My prayer for Proverbs 29:11

Dear Father,

I always have the right to remain silent however, often I don’t use that right. Sometimes, I am like the fool! Whatever comes to mind, I talk about. Often I don’t even stop long enough to sensor or check out what I am about to say. However, I am glad to say that with your help, I am learning each day to filter my words and stop the rambling.

Because I am still learning the process of learning to remain silent, I need your help everyday. I ask Father, that you would watch over what I see, hear, think and especially say. I need the Holy Spirit to convict me and make me aware of the times that I go speak on and on so that I can stop and hear what others want to say.

Controlling anger is hard for most of us.

Anger usually reaches a boiling point and then watching what we say is not our priority. However, with the Holy Spirits guidance, I now take a deep breath and immediately ask for peace to cover the situation and all who are involved. With the covering of peace, the situation is quickly defused.

Father, thank you that I am still learning. Thank you for your leading, loving and especially your patience throughout my training period. I am truly blessed!

In the name of my Lord, Jesus, I pray


James 1:19-20

Quick to Listen, Slow to Speak, Slow to Anger

Be careful with anger.

19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
20 For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.(KJV)

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Listen, speak and be slow to anger

Do you consider yourself quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger? Be careful with anger. James is explaining the difference between being a good Christian vs not so good. A good Christian will listen, think before speaking and manage their tempers.

Many of us don’t even listen as someone is talking to us. We are too busy wanting to respond. When it’s our time to talk (and sometimes we don’t even wait for our turn) we blurt out without thinking what our words may be saying or what effect they will have on the other person.

The Bible speaks of how the tongue has the means to kill. By speaking without thinking or by yelling in anger, our unkind words can hurt someone to the core. Perhaps it will kill their spirit of life. How many times do we think and relive the words people said to us years ago?

We may be angry at what has been said to us. Possibly the way it has been said or perhaps we have taken offence at the body language. So, what do we do in return? Are we quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger? Not usually? Chances are we lash out in anger!

There are many types of anger, but James uses the word wrath. He says that when we use wrath, we are not working the righteousness of God. In this verse, James is explaining how to change and how a Christian should handle the situation.

Be Quick to Listen

We must learn to listen carefully to what is being said and then think about what we heard. Before opening our mouths, consider the words we are about to use. Following that we should remove anything that God would consider offensive or mean-spirited. And then speak.

Slow to Speak

Speak only when we have something valuable to say and that which would be useful to the conversation.

Slow to Anger

We must never let the conversation get out of hand by speaking words of anger. At some point we may want to take them back but won’t be able to. Words are hurtful. Think about your words as if you nailed a bunch of holes in a fence. Stand back to look at them all. It would be very hard to fill them. You could try but it would just cover the holes not really mend them. It’s the same with words. Once given, it’s very hard to take them back or repair them.

So, in conclusion, I believe that James is saying, listen carefully to what is being said. Remain focused on the conversation. Listen more than we speak and when we do speak, do not come with anger because with it, we are not walking with God.

Definitions from › dictionary

WRATH 1 : strong vengeful anger or indignation 2 : retributory punishment for an offense or a crime : divine chastisement

RIGHTEOUS: acting in accord with divine or moral law : free from guilt or sin. 2. a : morally right or justifiable b : arising from an outraged sense of justice or morality

ANGER:enrage, incense, inflame (also enflame), infuriate, ire, madden, outrage, rankle, rile, roil, steam up, tick off, get one’s goat, rub the wrong way

There is an old saying – God gave us two ears and only one tongue. This is a perfect example of how we are to listen twice as much as we talk.

Listen carefully, think before speaking and consider what you may say in anger

My Prayer for James 1:19-20

Divine Father,

This is an awesome lesson for everyone. Today, everything is rushed including conversations. People, myself included, sometimes just don’t really listen anymore. We hear only a bit of what is being said. Because our minds are off thinking of something else we are only half listening. Following that, when we go to speak, we fill in the gaps of what we think we may have heard. This is where everything falls apart.

James is warning the people to be careful with anger. A good lesson for us today when anger is so prevalent.

Father, I am guilty of speaking in anger and I ask right now, that you would heal every hurt that I’ve ever caused and please forgive me for all the times I have hurt someone with my words.

I ask Father, in the name of your Son that you would help me to become a better person. Help me to listen intently on what is being spoken to me, let me hear with a loving heart and my mind. When I do speak, allow me to speak words of love, encouragement and kindness.

However Lord, I know there will be times when I will not be pleased with something someone else has said or done. During those times of instant anger, please be with me and help me to stop and cool down before speaking or reacting. Once the situation has been calmly rectified, may I forgive the person who came against me and may I let love endure .

Thank you Father that from now on, I will listen carefully, think before speaking and manage my temper. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

Praise your mighty name. Hallelujah.

In Jesus’s name I pray.


1 Corinthians 13:4-5

Attributes of God’s Love

4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;

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One of the Attributes of God’s Love is not anger

What are the attributes of God’s love, which we are to follow? In 1 Corinthians 13 the writer tells us that charity is love. He is not saying what love feels like, he is telling us what love is and what it does.

One of the attributes of God’s love is long suffering

Long suffering refers to a person who has endured something unpleasant for a long period of time, yet remained patient throughout. It shows self-restraint when we really want to show anger.

Does this mean we should allow others to do or say things that hurt us? No, absolutely not! If we are bullied or abused by others, we need to talk to God and have him direct us on what we should do. The Lord may direct us to contact a close friend or perhaps even a professional. If that’s the case, seek out someone who will understand and be able to help you. The Bible tells us that we must not carry anger and hurt. It’s very important, for our own sake, that we find a way to forgive those who have hurt us. In most cases, we can not do that on our own, but we can do all things in God’s strength. See also Romans 5:3-5 and Suffering – Romans 8: 28

If someone hurts our feelings or annoys us, our first response should not be to anger. Best to talk to God and to pray for them. Perhaps we realize that we are hurting or annoying others. Ask the Lord to help you to talk to the person, asking for forgiveness from them.

Another of the attributes of God’s love is: Love is kind

Kindness is similar to patience but with kindness we show our love. Someone has just done or said something that immediately raises our temperature. Our first reaction is anger, however by taking a deep breath and remembering that love is kind, we can often show the others grace. That person may be drawn to Jesus, after they witness how kind, helpful and forgiving Christians are.

Love is not envious is counted as one of the attributes of God’s love.

Envy should never take residence within us. Let’s say that we wanted something (a job perhaps) but someone we considered not worthy of the job, got it instead of us. Normally, we would respond with jealously which would draw out our anger.

We need to remember that although Father God is in control of our lives and has given us the gift of free-reign, we still should make good choices. God would prefer us to live and love by his example however, he will not force us to abide in his ways. We could go and fight for the job we believe we deserve, but where is God in that scenario?

He wants us to live and love by his example, but will not to force us to do so.This is an opportunity where we would take a deep breath and go over and congratulate the person. Saying it through clenched teeth won’t help. It must come from our hearts and we should be happy for them. God is looking after us and right now we are exactly where we should be.

Love is not to be conceited

“Look at me, look at what I’ve accomplished.” Or “look at what God has given to me”. Both of these statements are made to encourage other’s to see how great or fortunate we are. Conceited people want the attention and to show off. That’s not love! Love is gracefully accepting something and being happy for it, not being conceited or a braggart.

Love does not draw attention to oneself

We are not to behave in a manner which draws attention to oneself, nor does love take pride in itself. Let’s say a man gives money to the poor and then comes back to tell all his friends and family what a great thing he did. Where is the love in that situation? He would be better to give and tell no-one. What really counts was God witnessing the true love of giving without expecting anything in return, from the man.

Love does not think only of oneself

That leads us to the next way of love. We should look around and see who it is that needs help and how can we help them. It should never be about how comfortable we could make ourselves but how we can do something to make someone else comfortable.

Love is not easily provoked

It seems everyday we run into something that gets under our skin. If we allow this anger to get the better of us, then very soon we are doing or saying or living in a way that is not pleasing to God. We need to catch the anger right away and stomp it into the ground, then live in the way Jesus intended.

Love is not thinking of evil things

If we hold onto hurts, anger, fear or anything which is not of God, then they have a tendency to grow and expand. Soon that tiny little piece of anger we tucked away has become this huge giant ball of hatred. We’ll be wanting revenge! It’s important to deal with the evil as soon as it hits. We must cover the evil with the blood of Jesus. We can’t give evil time to settle in. So, without a minute to lose, we pray over it immediately and have it gone.

Jesus Christ shed His blood to cover the sins of everyone ever born. However, only those who accept Jesus’ sacrifice of spilled blood and the cross will we be able to use his blood for protection and other blessings.

So we see that love comes through many different ways. It is a wonderful feeling that fills our bodies with the compassion for others and the peace of God. With the help of Jesus, we can be on the alert for the wickedness of the enemy, making it easy to overcome Satan’s pitfalls each and every day.

My prayer for 1 Corinthians 13:4-5

Heavenly Father,

Father, you loved us first and have taught by example. Thank you that Jesus shed his blood and died on the cross for us. Even in his last moments, Christ showed us love, not anger.

Following his example, may Jesus always be seen in me. Help me to be humble, happy and to be a servant to others. Please guide me to always see whom you have placed in my path and may I find ways to help them.

Father, I pray that anything I have, anything I do or anything I am in control of, never puffs me up. My hope is that I only see you Father leading me in the way I should go.

As your child, you will always give me the opportunity to do your will Lord. Help me to always be thankful to do what you ask me to do.

In the precious and Holy name of your Son, Jesus Christ, I pray. Amen.